Dr. Krista Jordan's Blog

When my son was little he told whoppers. And not just occasionally. At one point it seemed that every other sentence that came out of his mouth was pure fabrication. As a parent I have to admit I was a bit concerned. So I did some research. And felt a lot better…Here’s the good and bad news. About half of us lie. A study done in 2009 showed that lying does vary–  some people don’t really tell any, some tell a few and some tell many. The good news is that the prolific liars are rare– ab […]

How to Manage Anxiety

Anxiety disorders are the most common psychiatric illness in the United States. Around 40 million people struggle with anxiety that is at debilitating levels. ​That’s one in five people! So what’s going on in anxiety? Basically your sympathetic nervous system, which is designed to help you fight or run from predators (think a bear chasing you in the woods) has gone a bit haywire. Things that should not provoke this response (racing heart, dilated pupils, cold sweat, massive amou […]

What is Narcissism?

Many of us have heard of the myth of Narcissus– the Greek hunter who saw his reflection in a body of water and was so overcome by his own beauty that he fell in love with the image and could not bear to leave it. He ended up dying, although the means vary from one version to the next. But the basic idea is that Narcissus could not love anyone other than himself.Fast forward to now, 2019, and we can all attest to the longevity of the Narcissistic character. So I thought I would try to shed some […]

​As a research-oriented person who spent A LOT of years in college I am a bit inclined to think that if something is simple it may not be very effective. I am often fond of saying to a new client “if your problem was easy to fix you would not be in my office!”. And while on the whole I do believe that to be true, I have had a humbling experience with one particular “intervention” that is, at least in practice, quite simple. That intervention is monitoring and changing “self-talk”. So […]

It should be no surprise with the rapid advances in genetics these days that they have identified a gene that may help to explain what a lot of folks call the Highly Sensitive Person. A researcher at the University of California Berkeley, Dr. Levenson, postulates that a variation of the serotonin transporter gene on chromosome 17 may may account for people who feel their emotions very acutely. This serotonin transport gene  can have two common variations– the “short allele” or the “long a […]

First I need to give credit to the originator of this metaphor, a friend and mentor Dr. Stephen Finn. Dr. Finn is a psychologist in practice here in Austin, Texas and is on faculty at UT Austin. He has mentored many psychologists over the years and is a world-renown expert on psychological assessment. If you are interested in psychological assessment you may find his website, www.therapeuticassessment.com, of interest. Now that I have given credit, let me explain what “saucering” […]

We’ve all been there. You’re in the middle of a screaming fight (OK, some of you are probably not screamers, so maybe a glowering fight) with the exact person that just 24 hours earlier you were feeling so incredibly in love with. Or you are furious with your 15 year-old for breaking curfew YET AGAIN when just last week you were sharing a touching moment with them where they thanked you for being such a great parent. And now you want to kill that same child. Not literally, but…Yes, it happens […]

Attachment styles represent the strategy that we learned as infants in order to keep our caregivers in close physical proximity. Human infants literally can’t last more than an hour or so without having an adult caregiver nearby. Babies MUST keep this in their awareness and work hard to keep their caregiver close.Different caregivers respond to different methods in order to maintain contact. If you​ have a parent who is highly distractible, for example, it would pay off to intermittentl […]

The following article appeared on time.com last month and is a HUGE topic in my work with couples. One of the first things I try to teach couples is that memory is faliable and so the “he said/she said” fight where one person opens with “when you said/did _____” and the other person fires right back “THAT’S NOT WHAT I SAID/DID!”  to which the other now disbelieving partner yells “Oh my gosh YES IT IS!” followed by something like “I remember EXACTLY what you said, it was Tuesday and we […]

“An Introduction to PACT Therapy” will cover the fundamental aspects of PACT therapy that make it so distinctly different (and arguably more effective!) than other forms of couple’s work. If you have avoided working with couples for fear of the complexity this talk will help excite you to the possibilities and show you a clear and coherent model that is elegantly simple. If you already work with couples and find that there are particular couples, dynamics or situations that y […]

For many decades, spirituality, and even more so religion, was considered to be at odds with psychology and psychiatry. It is true that Sigmund Freud, arguably the inventor of “the talking cure”, was not a fan. However, as with everything in life, things change. Psychology is no longer as opposed to spirituality and religion as it’s creator may have intended it to be. Personally, I am a researcher by nature, so as with all questions I like to consult the data.  I realize that m […]

Some time ago I published a blog on the “Care and Feeding of your Island/Avoidant Partner”. For those of you unfamiliar with the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT), “Islands” and “Waves” are the terms coined by Dr. Stan Tatkin to help people understand attachment styles and how they show up in romantic relationships.​”Wave-ish” partners have a few hallmark qualities that can help you identify them. They tend to like to talk, especially at night as they ar […]