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April 15, 2015 by Peel Weep

Grief and Loss

Grief and Loss
April 15, 2015 by Peel Weep

Grief does not change you. It reveals you.”

~ John Green

In my work as a therapist I can honestly say that it is never to late to grieve a loss. I have seen many people who start off thinking that “there’s no point in getting into that, it was so long ago” or “I should be over this by now”. But with support and encouragement these people have been able to do the important work of uncovering unprocessed grief that they have carried around for many years. And the results are remarkable. Letting go of grief can bring about profound changes in energy level, mood, openness to new relationships and even forgiveness of one’s self and others.

If you are carrying around unresolved grief, no matter what kind or how old it is, I invite you to think about starting to process that loss.

The following post has been excerpt from a blog by Alexandra Katehakis & Tom Bliss. Many thanks for their words of wisdom on letting go.

No one knows the hurt of heartbreak until they’ve experienced it. The gnashing pain of saying “good-bye” to a lover–when we know the relationship isn’t working, when we have to leave in order to grow into our potential, when we’ve been so terribly betrayed that we can’t hold a vision for healing, or when someone dies–is beyond comprehension until we live through it. Loss is so devastating that many people hold onto pain, resentment, or anger as a perverse way to stay in relationship with the one we’ve said “good-bye” to. Sometimes it even feels righteous to stay in anger, hurt, or upset–almost as though we can right the wrong if we dig in our heels. Yet over time, this stance leaves us embittered and stuck, hanging on for dear life so as not to feel the awful feelings of sorrow. Worse, that mental clinging precludes our moving on.

Grief, on the other hand, is an essential step in our progress forward. Grieving requires the ego and the recriminations to get out of the way so that we can become vulnerable and fully feel the loss of what once was. Without the full-bodied sensation of our grief and loss, we can never get past them. Letting go and grieving is a cleansing and healing process for all: we tear open our emotional prison and energetically release ourselves, and our former beloved, to move on.

DAILY HEALTHY ACTS

  • If you’re holding on to an old wound and haven’t let yourself feel the loss, take time today to write about what keeps you invested.
  • Free yourself for a good cry over your primary losses.
  • Have a small ceremony to commemorate the anniversary of the loss of a loved one, whether it was a relational loss or literal loss. Light a candle in his or her name to free them, throw a rock into the ocean to symbolize an aspect of the relationship that needs to be let go, or plant some flowers so that your grief can blossom into something new.
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