Why Do Couples Grow Apart and What Can You Do About It?
When we all seem to be spending considerable energy trying…
What Attachment Styles Are Most Compatible?
Are you anxiously attached? Avoidant? Disorganized? What do all of…
An Introduction to “PACT Therapy” at the DePelchin Children’s Center in Houston TX
“An Introduction to PACT Therapy” will cover the fundamental aspects of PACT therapy that make it so distinctly different (and arguably more effective!) than other forms of couple’s work. If you have avoided working with couples for fear of the complexity this talk will help excite you to the possibilities and show you a clear and coherent model that is elegantly simple. If you already work with couples and find that there are particular couples, dynamics or situations that y […]
The Care and Feeding of Your Wave (or Loving Your Angry-Resistant Partner)…
Some time ago I published a blog on the “Care and Feeding of your Island/Avoidant Partner”. For those of you unfamiliar with the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT), “Islands” and “Waves” are the terms coined by Dr. Stan Tatkin to help people understand attachment styles and how they show up in romantic relationships.”Wave-ish” partners have a few hallmark qualities that can help you identify them. They tend to like to talk, especially at night as they ar […]
How To Get Your Partner Into Couple’s Therapy
I get this question a lot. So I decided to write a blog post about it. Now, of course first you need to realize that you cannot control another person. Believe me, I have tried and tried hard. I like to say that I am just stubborn enough and strong-willed enough and persistent enough that if anyone COULD control another person it would be me. And I have always failed every time I tried. So please realize that. You cannot force another person to do anything, least of all couples therapy. […]
The Power of Hope
Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if…
Is It OK To Ask A Partner To Change?
I get this question a lot. Usually framed as “you…
Interview with Dr. Stan Tatkin on Shrinkrap Radio – Great Explanation of His Roots
For anyone who has wondered how Dr. Tatkin came to…
What I’m Reading Now: How To Be An Adult In Relationships
David Richo’s book “How To Be An Adult In Relationships:…